Nobody likes baggage. But we all have it.

Baggage. It’s almost a dirty word. But we all live, and life is messy. No matter what we do, we can’t really avoid collecting some baggage along the way. But what’s important is – how you (and your partner) deal with your baggage.

If you feel you have too much baggage for someone to fall in love with you, or you are worried you’ll never find someone who doesn’t have baggage, this video blog is for you.


Do you feel you have too much baggage?

Do you want a partner with no baggage?

Did you have bad experiences with someone with a lot of baggage?

Let me know your thoughts in the comments section.

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4 Responses

  1. CJ says:

    You have lovely slavic blue eyes.
    No offense.
    Thanks for the lecture!

  2. Ms Jones says:

    This is a very pragmatic post. Past relationships without children are one thing.
    Some people cannot let go of old flames, have behavioral issues or something of the like. This type of “baggage” is very clear cut in my mind. It is smart to learn where a prospective mate’s previous relationship went wrong and how they have dealt with it.

    I have 4 brothers in their 50’s. 3 of them got divorced with kids. 1 had an extramarital affair which produced a child.
    Heavy baggage – all of them!
    1 brother recently married for a second time. Even though he had 2 children, he would eventually marry a woman whose child from a previous relationship was mature and settled in her own marriage.
    He did not want the responsibility of the co-parenting experience with another woman.
    I think it is smart to recognize whether the “baggage” is something we can deal with.
    Children are not “baggage”. They are people. I have no children. If I met a man with young children who “separated” them
    from his dating life, I would consider this person much too cold a person for me.
    What type of man has young children who are at arms length? As you say in your video, how the person deals with the “baggage” is at least as important as what the “baggage” is. Not all people are ready for blended post divorce marriages that involve young children.

    And just as important, not all young children are ready for the “blended” experience.
    They are not “baggage”. They are small people who require nurturing from their parents. They are not “separate” from the new relationship. And if they are, that is a very poor reflection on the perspective partner’s character as a patent as far as I am concerned.

    Children are resilient to an extent. However, a smart person knows not only just how much “new” parenting they can handle. The child’s ability to adjust to new relationship is at least as important as the relationship with the new spouse.
    Some parents wait until their “baggage” (children) are ready. Others do not or cannot deal with the experience of starting in with even more parental responsibility. And the children are the ones who suffer most if the “adults” fail to recognize the truth about their “baggage” (human children).

    • Petra says:

      I agree with you completely, children are not baggage. I just wanted to point out that it’s the way the person deals with their relationships and children from other partners that matters, not the actual fact they have or don’t have children. Thanks for commenting!

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