Follow your heart… or your mind?


“Just follow your heart, it will tell you what’s best for you.” This is a very popular piece of advice today, and you know what – in theory, there is nothing wrong with it. It’s great that we even have the option to follow our heart’s desires – not that long ago most people didn’t have that luxury, neither in life, nor in love.

But the problem is, our heart is often in conflict with our mind – the heart wants something, while the mind tells him it’s not such a good idea.

Why does it want to stop us from doing what we feel in our heart is right for us? And who should we listen to, then?



What happens when you follow your heart? Does it make the right decisions?
Have you ever regretted following your heart?
Are you more of a mind or heart person – a thinker or a feeler?

Thank you for sharing!

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3 Responses

  1. Ms Jones says:

    I like this video. Very accurate and insightful. I have tended to follow my heart a little too heavily when my mind should have taken over and told me to bail out. However I have lived and learned and hope I can pick a winner next time.

    As for those who follow their minds only, I see them, know them. They tend to be very unhappy people. Logical choice, money, security, position. They are self righteous about their decision and have to let everyone know how “happy” they are.

    I have a sister who is like this. I can hardly even speak to her anymore because I think she is not connected with her feelings and is getting worse so over time. Rich, secure, has all the “right” education and “stuff”, but out of touch with the fundamentals.

    Too bad, but I have stopped trying to talk with her and just send polite greeting cards from time to time to stay in touch.

    We are both from the same family of divorced parents. Neither one of us wish to reenact our family drama. Her approach is to lock it down.

    My approach has been such a strong desire to make a connection that I often stay too long hoping things will “work out” – being over optimistic. As time has gone by, I am a little more balanced and see the red lights. And instead of just ignoring them I now heed them.

  2. Chris says:

    I have been following my mind most of my life. I locked my heart in a cage and am keeping it to myself. I will say this though. Even though there are no ups and downs as a single person involving the emotional rollercoaster, the toll of loneliness on the heart is catastrophic and can even alter the brain’s way of thinking. I am a testament to this. The longer I remain alone, the lonelier my heart becomes and the more I second guess my own thoughts produced by my brain. Your video was very insightful and certainly worth watching.

    • Petra says:

      Thank you so much for sharing. This can be reversed, don’t give up hope. It’s good you realised you have a problem and this is not working for you. Let me know if you’d like me to help.

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