How to get dates
My last blog was helping you to get better at first dates.
But then you asked – and rightfully so: “What if I can’t even get to that first date?”
There is no easy way for me to answer that question. Getting a date is just a tip of an iceberg, and the iceberg is you with all your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, fears, insecurities.
Please try not to compare yourself to others when it comes to dating success – you have no idea what their iceberg is like. They might have totally different goals, ideas and desires, and even though what they want (or have) looks the same as what you want, it most likely isn’t.
Whether you struggle to get dates, or you can get dates, only not with people you actually see as potential partners, please bear in mind these two things:
1 – Dating is a marathon, not a sprint.
If you think dates and partners will just fall into your lap, without you doing anything to get them – you will surely spend a lot of time waiting for that special someone to enter your life. And quite likely end up alone, bitter and disappointed.
Perseverance and consistent effort, as well as learning from mistakes is key to success. In any area of life – finding a life partner is no different than business or school or sport or art. Those who keep showing up will win the girl (or boy).
2 – Rejection is an essential part of dating.
You cannot date and not experience rejection. More people than not will reject you (and me, and everyone else). So if your reason to not put yourself out there more is the pain of rejection – you will again, most likely end up alone. Safe from the pain, yes – but alone.
More about this, and in more detail – here is the video:
LET’S HEAR FROM YOU
What do you do to find people to date?
How hard it is to find someone you’d want to go or ask on a date?
Thank you for your thoughts and observations!