What does it mean to “just be yourself”?
I am sure you’ve heard this before: just be yourself when you go on dates, and everything will be fine. Act normal. Don’t worry, just be you.
And I know that often sounds like empty, over-simplified advice given by people who have nothing better to say.
You probably wonder – what exactly does that mean “just be yourself”? How can I not be me?
But – if you ever thought about it, there is a difference between how we act when we are with someone we know well (and don’t feel the need to impress them), and someone we just met. Especially if that someone new is a potential love interest.
We can be tempted to change our usual appearance, what we say, how we act… because we want them to like us.
Is that necessarily a bad thing? No – but if you want to be matched with someone who will love you just the way you are, it’s not exactly a great approach.
Here is why…
LET ME HEAR YOUR THOUGHTS
Do you feel and act differently when you go on dates or meet someone you’re attracted to?
How does that feel – good or bad? What changes?
Would love to hear from you… leave a comment below.