The worst thing that can happen when you follow your heart

I am going to be 40 this week! I don’t feel that old. I don’t even know if it’s old.

Am I middle-aged now? That word actually makes me giggle.

OK, I know I’m not that young any more – but I feel like the numbers don’t really matter that much. What matters is how I am spending the years attached to them.

And lately, life has been nothing short of great. Everything is falling into place, my love life, my job, my relationships, my experiences. Everything’s good. And it’s been on a positive trend for years now.

How did that happen? Am I just being very lucky?


Not particularly lucky. Wasn’t born into wealth. Or an unconditionally loving, tremendously supporting family. I’m not exceptionally good looking. I didn’t have a passion and talent for a particular art, career or calling from an early age. Truth be told, I had a pretty average start in everything.

But I had an insatiable desire for finding happiness.

So I spent more than half of my life fiercely looking for it. I got lost and sidetracked at times, but no matter what happened I never stopped.

My life today is pretty much a result of that search. It’s reflects every single piece of wisdom and truth I’ve collected so far. It’s not perfect, but it’s damn great.

Why am I telling you all this? Not to brag or bore you, no.

I want to give you food for thought. I want you to consider making that commitment yourself. A commitment to happiness.

Here I am, helping you find your perfect romantic match. Yet, I’m very much aware that the journey to true romance is a journey of finding romance with yourself first.

Sometimes I feel like I’m cheating – telling you a story you want to hear, only to get across a much deeper message and get you to look at yourself in ways you’ve never done before.

But it’s all for a good cause, so hopefully you’ll forgive me 🙂

I want to inspire you to embrace living with your whole heart.

I want you to make life your fun playground.

I want you to believe happiness is possible for you.

I want you to give it all you’ve got and make it your highest priority.

Becoming happy is a journey, but once you set foot on it, it quickly becomes very rewarding. It works.

It’s what gives life meaning and purpose.

I want you to stop making excuses and get moving towards your dreams. Not just thinking about how great it would be if you could only have it… one fine day. If you only had more money, time, beauty, wisdom, health…

You don’t need more resources. You already have all the greatness that you need. Right there, in your heart. Just need to appreciate it more, and put it in good use.

When you love and appreciate yourself and honour your life as a worthwhile journey – you get direct access to all the best this world has to offer.


  • True love and connection
  • Good health
  • Financial security and stability
  • Joyful living
  • Success in every area of life
  • Acknowledgement from others
  • Great sex
  • Lots of fun and laughter
  • Feeling of calm and deep happiness
  • Making your dreams a reality
  • Being in harmony with others
  • Living your life with ease
  • Feeling like everything, all the time, is falling into place just as it should.

Did I forget something…? Please feel free to add your own dreams and desires to this list.

So, would you like to have these things?

I honestly don’t know anyone who doesn’t.

Yet we repeatedly tell ourselves it’s not possible. Because life is… unfair. Challenging. Unpredictable. Hard.

But guess what? The only way to truly fail in it is to sit back, and do nothing. Give up on happiness because you think nothing will ever get better, so why bother.

We give up because someone told us it’s not possible to be happy, and we believed in it. Because we tried and failed, and failure hurts. Because change is scary. Who knows what disasters could be awaiting for us on the other side? Better not risk it.

Mostly, we give up because we are not sure if the reward is worth the effort.

Well, I want you to trust me on this – it is so well damn worth it! Your life can be so much better than it is today. Stress, pain, emptiness, fear, anxiety, helplessness – none of that is necessary.

Still don’t believe? Well then, the only way to find out is to try it out. Make one small step today, in the direction of your dreams. Then another. And another. Soon you’ll be able to look back and see how far you’ve gone. And you’ll begin to like it.

Do things that scare you a bit. That builds the courage to do even bigger and scarier ones – the ones that make the biggest difference.

Courage is truly like a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it gets. And you need at least some courage to get the life you want.

If for nothing else, do this to test my theory and prove me wrong.


Bookmark this page, come back to it in a year – and tell me about all the wonderful ways you’ve failed. All the terrifying changes you’ve done. All the scary stuff that happened once you started consciously creating your life.

I am absolutely dying to hear what’s the worst thing that can happen when you follow your heart.

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4 Responses

  1. Beautiful piece. Happy Birthday! Welcome to this wonderful decade.

  2. Boston says:

    I have become addicted to your blogs and essays. So firstly thank your it all.

    But what if a person doesn’t really know what they want? As in take that next step towards what? Career wise things are going well but personally how do even figure out what you like and what you want? I think that’s something I’m trying to figure out and the type of life I want. I want to be happy but not sure exactly how that comes to reality?

    • Petra says:

      Thank you for the praise. Always nice to hear 🙂 I know, it is hard to know what we want in love, nobody ever teaches us what and how to look for it. We just assume we’ll figure it out as we go, that’s why there are so many problems. But if you’d like more clarity, I can help you with that. I know how to help people get to the bottom of that. If you’d like a consultation get in touch (via email / Contact or Work with me pages) or schedule one (there’s a button on every page).

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