Where is my perfect match?

Many single people feel like they are missing out on something. Or there is something missing to them. Like they need “fixing” – because their lives are not complete without a partner. It certainly does not help that people in relationships – especially some family members (usually female) – can’t stop pitying you for not having a partner. You get awkward looks in social and family gatherings and those dreaded, always so patronising sounding questions: “Is there anything new in your life?”. Wherever you go seems like people enjoy putting you down and reminding you of your single status – like you haven’t had enough of it yourself already.

When you are single you look at couples around you and think: “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I have what they have? If only I had a partner, I would be so much happier.” But is it really like that? Because many long-lasting relationships only look good on the surface, and people in them are actually pretty unsatisfied. While you wonder where your perfect match might be, they ask themselves how come that the one they are with is not so perfect after all. They might not want to end it for a number of reasons, even though they do feel trapped and unhappy with their partners – and that doesn’t feel like a great place to be either, does it?

It is very easy to fall into the trap of thinking the grass is greener on the other side. You think everything would be so much easier if you had your “plus one”, but it is not necessarily so. There is much more to it than just being with someone – and a bad relationship will actually make you feel… very much alone.

Being with someone won’t automatically make you happy, but being alone doesn’t mean you need to feel unhappy and unfulfilled either. While you are looking for someone to share your life with, instead of feeling sorry for yourself for not finding them yet – become aware of all the things and relationships you have in your life, and appreciate them more. If you have wonderful friends, a rich social life, hobbies and interests you are passionate about – you already have lots of love and joy in your life.

How about looking at things from that perspective – focusing on the fullness of love that you already have, instead of the one that is still missing?


What do you think about the idea of a “perfect match”?
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  1. There’s no such thing as a perfect partner or a perfect relationship. That’s a myth perpetuated by books, films and television. I don’t really buy into this idea that every person has a soulmate. How can that be? If every person is destined to be with one special partner then why do so many people go through a series of relationships? If soulmates existed we would only end up with that special person right from the beginning and would never be with anyone else. I’ve got no time for people who display pity or mockery towards people who are single.

    • Petra says:

      Hi Scott, I agree with you. There are people who are a good match for us but there is never only one. Btw – I tried to respond to your email but it keeps giving me an error, maybe you misspelled it? If you read this and you’d like to get a response do send me another one directly to contact(at)petralovecoach.com

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